Meet Blackdragon... in Australia?

Hey guys,


You may have seen Brad's recent blog post on a guy who goes by the name of Blackdragon.  If not, you can read it http://bradp.com/meet-blackdragon.

I first learned of this guy when Brad forwarded an essay he wrote on marriage and long term relationships.

To re-iterate what Brad has already said, this guy is legit.  It's pretty easy for professionals to figure out who is contributing effective and unique content to the field and who just re-hashes the same old stuff.

I think the people who are worth listening to in this industry are not only the ones who demonstrate mastery with women and relationships, but also who brings that 'something extra' to the table.

For Brad, it's his vast experience as a social worker, coach, teacher and years of experiencing in other 'helping' roles.  This gives him an outstanding ability to counsel, instantly identify what areas need improvement and work on these in the most effective way.  Not to mention he can bury ANYONE in the field at cold approach game (and I've seen many 'celebrity' PUAs in the field).

For myself, it's my years experience as a front-line combat instructor in the military, my career success in the corporate world (earning incomes of over $120k at age 26 and over $200k at age 29) and my investing success.

For Blackdragon, he's the only guy in the community that I know that has a background in personal productivity and goal setting.  In fact, this is what he does in his day job with C-level executives (CEOs, CFOs, etc).  This is the stuff I've found most interesting from him personally and it's top notch.

I can also vouch his online dating methods are solid having personally implementing some of his tips with great effectivenes.

If you are interested in either Online game, MLTRs or Personal effectiveness, I encourage you to check out his site at http://www.blackdragonsystem.com.


Fellow Australians - stay tuned for an important announcement... (or feel free to email me if you just can't wait).


Talk again soon,

Dale P.

IT professionals - a schedule and workflow that works while learning.

I've been asked by Brad to write a post on a schedule that you regular 9 to 5 type guys can use while you are learning.

I will share the schedule that worked well for me.

I'll start by saying that the schedule you follow will vary slightly depending on where you are in the game, and what you currently have going on as far as women in your life.

When I had zero girls in my life, and was in full on 'blitz' mode, my schedule was something like this.

Monday - work + gym + rest
Tuesday - work + gym + rest
Wednesday - work + gym + rest
Thursday - work + after work drinks (maybe insta-date to dinner) + rest
Friday - work + after work drinks (maybe insta-date to dinner) + home, then night game
Saturday - day game (optional) + night game
Sunday - day game and/or rest.

The above allowed for work, enough time for gym, rest and pursuing other pursuits, as well as up to good 5 or 6 sarging sessions each week.  I think it was a good balance.

You'll notice above there is no night for 'staying at home and reading eBooks!'.

The 'drinks after work' thing usually fitted in quite nicely, I'd just hit up a bar on the way home from work for an hour or two.  I'd still be in my work clothes (business attire).  I really liked this as it provided a variety of different girls to talk with, several of those cute corporate types are out doing morning runs on the weekends, not doing flaming shots at a club the night before).

Once I started to get a few phone numbers, I'd use the nights of Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday for dates.  Maybe a big long adventure style date on a Sunday or Saturday during the day.  This still kept the main Friday and Saturday nights free (which works quite well because those two times are probably the worst times to shoot for dates).

Once I started to have some regular girls in my life I'd just swap about sarging with spending time with them as required.  Pretty simple stuff.

Let me know what works for you!

What do I do on Valentines day?

There seems to be some confusion among guys as to what they should do on Valentines day.  Typically recovering nice guys, who previously were all chocolates, flowers and expensive dinners, swing too far in the opposite direction and become Mr Badass McJerk and tell a girl 'fuck off I'm playing Call of Duty that day'.

Like many things in life, I believe it's all about balance.  I like to do nice and thoughtful things to everybody I care about in my life but I do them because I want to, not because I feel I have to or as some kind of 'business exchange' for vaginal access.

When it comes to birthdays, Valentines Days or Xmas, what I do depends on what type of relationship I have with the girl (or what type of relationship I want to have with her).

For example;

FB's - Anything from nothing to a text message.
Women I am dating (i.e. MLTR potential but still early days) - Text message to a phone call.
MLTRs - Phone call to a simple bunch of flowers.
Primary LTR or Girlfriend - A simple bunch of flowers to something nicer (dinner, etc).

I also like to cook for a girl on Valentines day.  It's thoughtful, personal and doesn't get caught up in all the commercial bullshit surrounding the day.

The above is not a hard and fast rule.  Sometimes I'll do a little more and somethings I'll do a little less, but you get the idea.

Ericssons 10,000 hour theory. How are you going to get your hours in?

I was in an airport the other day and I saw an interesting looking book called '30 second psychology'.  I really like books that take complicated and sometimes dry topics and present them in an easy to digest way.

Flicking through the book I came across this gem and couldn't help but think of you guys.

Have a read yourself:

So first, the bad news.  Getting this area of your life handled is not a quick fix.  Anything that suggests you can go from zero to hero in a week, or that all you need to know is just 'one weird tip' is nothing more than A-grade BULLSHIT!

The bit that I didn't capture in the bottom right was something along the lines of:

Biographies of musical geniuses like Mozart and Michael Jackson nearly always reveal that they started off slow and only after almost countless hours of consistent, dedicated, deliberate practice and hard work they had a breakthrough.

Something to think about, isn't it?  Back in the day the solution to approach anxiety was 1,000 approaches.  I know the numbers are different, but the idea that you have to put in the time is a similar principle.

I know sometimes students look at the UDS coaches and think that they could never be like that.  It's just outside their reality that it's possible, or they have a limiting belief that some people these guys were born with it.  Well, according to this theory anybody could reach this level.  In sports, you could argue some people have certain a genetic makeup that provides them with an advantage, however I would argue that this only comes into play once people reach the highest levels of competition.  The thing is, you don't need to achieve anywhere near the equivalent of an Olympic athlete (or even a state-level athlete) to achieve life long fulfillment in this area of your life.  I've also seen too many people with genetic disadvantages still do very well to agree that 'nature' plays that much of a part.

If it takes 10,000 hours to become an 'Olympian level master' at this, I wonder many hours it takes just to be 'really damn good' if you have a great system in place like the Pickup Mansion or the 30/30?

Important Facebook video clip

DO NOT be like these guys:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyU4FeVdUa4

The importance of nutrition

One of my colleagues Jake P just posted up his health results up in his 30/30 club thread.  He went from 18% BF down to 13% in around 6 months.  This is great stuff.

A while ago I thought to myself - am I gonna be a fat cunt my whole life (well, a guy who has a bit of a tummy), or am I gonna be looking like a guy who is at his peak.  Hitting 30 is a big turning point, as Brad once said to me it's a very slippery slope after that.

After having already achieved success in relationships and wealth, I took the time out to focus on my health.  I've been working out regularly with a great personal trainer for a good two years now, and my results have been pretty good.  I've put on several Kgs of muscle and cms around my chest and arms, and have lost Kgs of fat and cms around my waist.

One huge turning point only about 6 months ago was properly understanding NUTRITION!  It really is 70-80% of your results.  I was doing 4 to 5 intense 1 hour PT sessions per week yet wasn't making the progress most would think that kind of training should produce. 

I was that guy who had a protein shake after a workout, thought that was enough and went on to eat out pretty much every single lunch and dinner (and breakfasts on weekends).  I used to think that getting to have a leisurely meal out with friends at nice places all the time was a reward for success, although obviously this is a belief that'll prevent me from ever having a six pack.  It became the norm, not the special occasion it should be.

There is an endless amount of information on what to eat, how often, etc, on the net or from friends.  Some of it is good and some of it is bullshit.

The best, no BS, completely free site I know of on the net is http://scoobysworkshop.com/.  This opinion is from months of research, talking with my Personal Trainer (who trained elite athletes at the Australian Institute of Sport) and a few serious body building friends (one of which is a full time male model with a slim, ripped build).  The stupid thing was they were all telling me this all along however I wasn't ready to 'receive' that information.

Anyway, checkout the site.  It's awesome.

http://www.scoobysworkshop.com/nutrition.htm

The YouTube videos where he shows you how to cook the simple, quick, healthy meals were particularly helpful (especially for someone who is really busy).  Oh, and they're really cheap too.  The frozen banana shakes are also really delicious, try them out.


Dale P.

LRRRR: MFFFF Fivesome!!!

[This 5some LR is from February 2010, over a year ago now.  I did not post it earlier as one of the girls below was a huge part of my life, and this is highly private information regarding her.  Not to mention if she was aware of this report she'd probably sue me (I'm not joking).  Now that she is no longer part of my life, here it is below for you to enjoy.  Due to the length and detail I'd like to present, it's going to be delivered in two parts to do it justice.  It's not every day something like this happens, and to my knowledge nothing like this exists anywhere].

Hey 30/30 boys... I just had one of the wildest experiences of my life and I wanted to share it with you.

MFFFF.

Yep.  You read it right.  Mother Fucker Fucker Fucker Fucker.  For those not familar with swinger speak, that's Male Female Female Female Female, as in a fivesome with one guy and four girls.

Let me tell you how it all went down.

I've been working on my 3some game lately and have been in a relationship with a super sexy bi girl.  I'm talking genuine bisexual, not 'mock bi to be cool bi' or 'impress my boyfriend' bi.  Her last two year+ long relationships were with girls.  For the purpose of this post I'll call her BiPartner.

Just that in itself has been a wild ride.  We both like to 'wear the pants' and are very dominant, argue often and then have the most passionate make up sex.  They'res a lot of love in our relationship, yet she doesn't take my shit and I certainly don't take hers.

In the past she's had problems with relationship with guys.  A few months in she'll have a strong desire to sleep with a girl and this would end up sabotaging their relationship.  As most guys know we deal with that issue too.  She confided in me a few stories of a past boyfriend, who said he was cool with her sexuality and encouraged her to explore it and sleep with other girls.  But then, one morning when he went over to her house with a surprise breakfast of crossaints and coffee, he and dropped it all over the carpet in shock when he walked in on her in bed with the girl she picked up the night before.  That ended up being a huge drama.

Knowing that she desires women, and that I desire variety, I put it to her that we could go out and pick up a girl and both of our needs could be met.  I never really planned it that way, however, the 'LTR with a bisexual girl and threesomes' is another solution to the male conundrum Brad talks about.  She gets her pussy fix, I get my pussy fix, yet we can enjoy the deep connection of a long term relationship.  These days there are all kinds of relationships.

She knows about the dating coach thing and I told her it wouldn't be too difficult to meet some cute girls.  One minute she'll be into it, the next she'll hate the idea and protest it cheapens our relationship.  It's a very delicate situation.  Even though I had only mentioned as idle bedroom chit chat, I decided I had talked about it more than enough and if I want this thing to happen I just need to give it a shot. 

Now herein lies the difficult part... if you're going to orchestrate a 3some you must be prepared to deal with the fallout.  Emotions, jealously, outbursts, freak outs... you get the idea.  Did I want to lose this girl?  No.  Did I want to lie on my deathbed thinking 'I got everything I wanted out of life, but never had two girls suck my dick at the same time'? (credit Brad P - 30/30 workbook).  I didn't want that either.

A few months earlier we were at a houseparty once and had our first threesome together.  It was with a girl I've known who's had a crush on me for a little while, a gym obsessed corporate go getter in my social circle with a rockin' body and mad set of tits.  Everyone at the houseparty either left or hit the hay and it was just us three up chatting.  I never ended up writing this one up, although everything went really smooth and we all had lots of fun.

Right now I have a job that involves a lot of travel.  I invited BiPartner to the other side of the country with me for a little weekend away.  We saw a few sights, went out for dinner and on the Friday decided to hit up a gay club.  Not only are these places a lot more sexual, they're just plain a lot more fun.  The girls that are don't have their bitch shields up, fashion is cooler, music is good and everyone is more friendly.

I booked an apartment hotel right in the city, a 10 minute walk to a popular gay district and even closer to work.  My best guess is this club is 1/3 straight, 1/3 gay guys and 1/3 gay girls.  BiPartner said it's so fucking hot to go to a place where hot lipstick lesbian hipsters are making out everywhere.

We drank, we danced and had a fun time.  I opened a few sets here and there, although the one of interest is this one large group.  It consisted of three girls and two guys.  One of the girls in the group (HBBigJugs) told me that she though BiPartner was really hot and asked if she was into girls.  I passed on this info but the initial attraction wasn't mutual.  HBBigJugs wasn't a super attractive girl by magazine standards, perhaps a 7.5 or an 8, although she did have a very sexual vibe and was really cool.  In fact, the whole group was really fun and cool and one of the girls was fucking smoking hot, SHBShyAsian.   

So we all got along well, danced, drank and were merry.  The night started to come to a close but the energy of the group was so high that it wasn't too much effort to convince everyone to come back to our nearby apartment for some more fun and drinks.  Naturally I had plans to fuck one (or more) of the girls, and this change of venue also suited the two gay guys and their motives, which I was unaware of at the time...

Our place was super close although we all jam packed into their car.  Should have walked.  These crazy kids had the inside of their car decked out like a club, streamers, mirror balls and loud music.  It was fun.

Once inside I cranked the music and poured some of the Baileys BiPartner and I bought earlier.  Now this is the same drink we shared during our last threesome, so whenever we drink this drink we are reminded of that fun time we had.  It's kinda like our 'threesome drink' (and very handy that just about every girl loves it too). 

So here we were all sitting around the lounge room listening to music, hanging out on the balcony and playing drinking games.  During this time I tried to assess what was going on here, who was with who (if any) and who wanted who.  So to recap, in the room we had me, BiPartner, HBBigJugs, SHBShyAsian, LesbianGirl, GayGuy and ShyGayGuy.  Hopefully you're less confused with all these names than I am... moving right along.

This whole situation wasn't a love triangle, it was some kind of love heptagon!  After I was about half way through figuring out the whole dynamic, BiPartner suggested we play 'spin the bottle' but with SHBShyAsians phone.  A fun little way to sexualise the evening...

So we spun and spun and different people were making out with others.  The way people interacted provided me with the missing pieces of the puzzle...

[To be continued...]