Tuesday, January 11

NYE/NYD in the life of a UDS Head Coach

Being the middle of our summer down here in Australia, the Xmas/NY period can get quite hot. Even at 7pm it was still around 33 degrees Celsius so I decided to go down to the beach for a swim. Weather was perfect, the sun just started setting and it was just a great way to finish off the year and chill out before the wild night ahead. As I parked the car I noticed this guy with three super fit looking blond girls...  Part of me thought I should make sure I say hi to this guy, but another part of me just wanted to relax at the beach and just reflect on the year just past, the year up ahead, all that kinda stuff. Also, I've just came out of a insanely intense relationship just weeks ago and am quite content just doing my own thing for now.  
I jumped in the water for a swim and watched the sunset. Just so happens he ended up swimming right up to me.  
I said hello with a positive upbeat comment, 'Awesome evening for a swim, huh?'. We got chatting. Eventually curiosity got to one of the girls and she butted in 'Hey is this a guy only conversation or what?'. To be honest nothing hugely interesting to mention about the interaction, I was certainly not in game mode but had a great time and all four of them were crazy fun. We ended up taking all these stupid pics and having a dance on the beach with champagne and cider to the music from a nearby dance festival.

Here are some of the photos.  The girls were yoga instructors and surfers, so had quite tidy bodies...


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Obviously we had the party at our little camp.  By this time (9pm) several groups of guys started to wander around the beach.  Every now and then one of them would try and come up and have a crack at the girls, but it was funny how they were 'creepy' because they went straight for the girls, where I was 'cool' and part of the gang.


The guy was a super cool surfy dude from tropical North Queensland and I got on well with him.  He had a really interesting life, he's also a property investor just came back from teaching surfing in Nicaragua whilst his wife was teaching yoga.  We traded numbers and hopefully I'll catch up with him again. I headed off to my house party.

At the house party.  Met up with some of my brothers mates.  A houseparty is a great place to meet new people, everyone is already warm as everybody is usually only one or two degrees of separation from anyone else.  In a situation like this I usually start by giving everyone some friendly eye contact and seeing what comes from that.  I locked eyes with this one blond girl.  I don't know how to describe it, but after doing this stuff long enough you end up developing this kind of sixth sense, or intuition, when you just know a girl has a kinky sexual side to her.  Whatever it is, this girl had it.  
I made sure to bump into her later on in the kitchen.  It was just general chit chat but with a flirty subcommunication.  I asked her how she knew everyone.  She said she worked at the local bar and met everyone through there.  Let's call her BarGirl.  I motioned pulling a beer from a tap and said 'Oh, so you'd be good at giving head, right?'  Her jaw dropped, she blushed a little and then confidentially said, 'Yes. I am'.  Right on.  We chatted a little more about  then separated.  She was obviously one of the two hotter single girls at the party so a few guys were having a go.  

There seemed to be only one other guy that had some game.  I went and chatted with him and he was actually a really cool dude.  No surprise really, a big part of having good game is being genuinely cool.  He was rubbing her back and sitting with her, and to the untrained eye doing a great job of making it appear like they were a couple.  I knew they weren't.  

I spied the other hottie making just finishing up in the bathroom so I thought I'd make sure I bump into her there as I was grabbing a drink from the bath (filled with ice and beers).  This girl was very attractive, tall and confident.  I could tell she was a strong woman even though she dressed up very in a very girly fashion.  She kinda looked like the girl from Starship Troopers, not Densie Richards but the tougher chick. StarshipTrooperGirl it is.  I noticed she had dog tags on, one with her name engraved, the other with 'positivity, peace and light' or something similar.  We talked about positive thinking and it's effects.  I was impressed, this girl had depth to her.  I pulled out my phone and grabbed her number.  Just as I was storing it BarGirl walks right in on us.  She made a comment which was basically like 'I just saw that, you know' and walked out.  Hahaha ah well.

I just cruised around and chatted to other people at the party some more.  After a little while I noticed GameGuy and BarGirl were missing.  So was a mate of mine.  I ventured out the front of the house to see where everyone was at.  I walked out onto the balcony and notice GameGuy had isolated BarGirl on the front porch and unintentionally cockblocked the whole thing by hanging around and chatting with my mates who in the street nearby.  Realising nothing was going to happen, GameGuy took BarGirl back out the back to join the rest of the party.  

I went back in.  BarGirl was looking through some CDs to chuck on.  I grabbed her hand and said 'I've got some really good stuff in the car, lets go grab that'.  She followed my lead.  My car wasn't just out the front, it was out the front and about 7 cars up the street.  Perfect isolation.  We chatted at the rear of the car and then went for the makeout.  It was quite passionate, grinding our bodies up to each other.  No doubt she was turned on by how I handled the whole situation.  It was great.  I told her to jump in the front, I had something to show her.  I started the car and drove off.  'Where are we going?'  'I've got something cool to show you, you'll see'.  I drove to my house.  Distance wise it was maybe 5kms away, but the traffic was crazy.  I kept just chatting about nothing really the entire 20 min drive back, can't let any dulls in conversation occur otherwise the logical side of the brain kicks in and it's 'Ummm... no really, where are we going?'.

We got to my place.  I took her upstairs to the kitchen and made out with her some more on the bench.  We went upstairs and things got a little heavier.  We were masturbating each other as I was kissing on her ear lobe.  It drove her wild and her waxed pussy was super wet.  We were about to go all the way when I realised I hadn't showered since my swim.  I told her to lick my arm to tell me if I tasted like beach.  She seductively stared me down as she ran her tounge up my arm.  'Yeah, a little salty'.  'Wait one sec, I'll have a quick shower'.  My bedroom has an ensuite and a walk in shower, so you can kinda half see into the shower from the bed.  A good excuse to turn the lights off.  I made sure it was quick, but it wasn't quick enough.  She ended up getting the 'where are you?' phone call from a friend.  Damn I need that cell phone blocker!  After the shower I climbed over her and started making out again.  She'd cooled off a little, and then when my mate buzzed really loud on my intercom/doorbell 'Hey buddy lets go!' that killed the whole thing.  No big deal, we can finish this another time plus I needed to get this NYE club event, it was like 3am now.  

I dropped her back at the party and my mate and I went to the club.  Nothing interesting here.  Some hotties around but I wanted to catch up with mates, and the handful of girls I did chat with where kinda wasted/exhausted from the nights festivities and things were going nowhere.  I saw this one super sexy woman, dark curly hair, dark eyes, sun kissed faced.  In my tired state I gave her Horsegirl then First Girlfriend.  She was liking it but also just exhausted.  I went for the number but no go and she’s like ‘I’m really sorry, I’d love to stay and chat but I’m about to crash’.

I decided to blow that yawn factory and headed back to an after party.  Now this afterparty was held by one of the DJs, and several of the DJs from the club went back there too, including a big name US guy.  That guy turned out to be not interesting at all, in fact, all a bit high and mighty about his DJ status.  When I introduced myself to him (honestly not knowing who he was) he gave me this weird look, as if I was crazy not to know.  Didn’t really talk to him much but in the end he got quite messy and ended up spewing up in front of everyone after a one too many shots... gross...

So at this party not only do have you these moderately famous DJs, but also their girlfriends.  And in general they are some super hot chicks... like 9s and 10s.  I can’t recall exactly how it all happened, or anything that I did anything consciously however one of them was super flirty with me.  She was a mega sexy door bitch for a really cool Techno club, huge tits, sculpted body and mad fashion.  Problem was, it was all too overt for my liking... I mean I hardly know her boyfriend but it’s pretty poor form to go hitting on his girl.  Naturally if they weren’t together I’d fuck her in a second but there are more than enough eligible single girls out there to even consider going down this fucked up road.  She ended up revealing some deep dark shit about herself (death and rape thoughts (fantasies?)), although everyone talks shit when they’re a bit wasted.

It all got a bit over the top when she insisted I take a number down right in front of everyone (and her BF).  In a sloppy attempt to diffuse the situation I said ‘Hey... why are you giving me this number, I’ve already got number’ (pretending to play dumb), but that only drew more attention to what was already obvious to everyone around.  Hahah... fail.  SexyDoorBitch and her DJ boyfriend ended up arguing in a corner for the remainder of the party and then he de-friended me from Facebook shortly after everyone went home.  Wow... well, with a girl like that, if it’s not me, it’ll probably just be someone else soon.  Feel sorry for the guy but what can I do - I wasn’t doing anything to make that happen, that was just the kavorka that time.

So all in all a super fun night.  No major scores to report, but an awesome time had and super solid leads.  New Years period is gold for meeting new girls.  You can almost guarantee that any girl out that night without a guy is single, everyone is in a super happy mood and those girls that are single just spent a Xmas with their family with no boyfriend at the table so maybe it’s that or something else but they seem to be more open to meeting new guys.  It’s also a good opportunity to ‘Happy New Year!’ text all of your leads (past and present) or past girls you’ve been intimate with and wouldn’t mind getting in touch with again. 


So just from that one night I’m now meeting up with three new girls in the next week... it’s amazing how you can go from ‘I’m looking forward to taking some time off after my draining breakup’ to wondering where I’m going to find the time to see all these girls.  Still not 100% how far I want to take them but I suppose I could have another think about that after I’ve fucked one or two of them.

Welcome 1/1/11!

Friday, January 7

Handling the 'maybe' aka the 'if I'm not too tired'

A fellow coach just wrote a blog post on a very common situation in modern dating.

You: 'OK cool, so how about we catch up after your dinner?'
Her: 'Sure, can I call you after dinner to tell you how I feel, and if I'm not too tired, we can get together?'

Agree to this and she's become a definite, and you're just an option... not a powerful position for you.

This is my take.

Many girls (and high value people) don't want to commit to a social option until the last minute, unless it's something huge.  Especially young, hot girls who have more social options than they have time and energy and especially a potentially awkward thing like meeting up with a new guy (she's yet to discover how fully awesome he is).   

When I'm presented with this situation I respond with a similar 'Oh hey that's cool, because I was going to do xyz.  Let's just check in later and see how we feel at the time'.

At this stage I'll try and arrange something else, potentially with other girls or even just hanging out with a mate.

If I do arrange something else that is better, I'll do that and send her a very nice cancel text - 'Hey, a friend of mine is demanding I go out with her, I figured you wouldn't mind as you'd probably be tired.  If you're not you're welcome to join us if you want'.  If she complains I'd say something like 'Hey next time, if you can do a definite I'll be a definite' (with genuine politeness, naturally).

This will help train her to realise that unless she commits, I won't commit, and once you cancel on a girl 9 times out of 10 they start chasing even more ('wow, nobody cancels on me, he must have options').  It can be scary to say no to a girl like this.  Isn't there some ancient wisdom out there, something along the lines of 'if you want something you must let it go free'?

If I haven't arranged something better, when the time comes I'll text or call 'Enjoy the dinner?'.

If she replies 'Great, but really tired.  Raincheck?'

I'd reply 'Oh good, because I just bumped into an old friend and she's insisting on buying me a drink.  I don't feel so bad now about having to cancel.  Rest up and you'll have to tell me about it sometime'.

I'd then just do something else.  There are plenty of other productive things I can do if I find myself with spare time.

Is it stupid game playing?  Yes.  But that's the unfortunate reality in my view for gaming certain girls.

Sometimes it's not about questioning or demanding certain standards of behaviour from people who are too young, inconsiderate or lazy to follow, it's about doing what's fair and effective.

I always give people the benefit of the doubt and try and make plans properly - but I'm not going to give my power away.

If a girl gives me a wishy washy 'Yeah, maybe', that's exactly what I'll give her in return (and follow through with).

If she gives me a solid commitment that's great and that's what I'll give her in return.


Dale P.

Handling the 'maybe' aka the 'if I'm not too tired'

A fellow dating coach just wrote a blog post on a very common situation in modern dating.

You: 'OK cool, so how about we catch up after your dinner?'
Her: 'Sure, can I call you after dinner to tell you how I feel, and if I'm not too tired, we can get together?'

Agree to this and she's become a definite, and you're just an option... not a powerful position for you.

This is my take.

Many girls (and high value people) don't want to commit to a social option until the last minute, unless it's something huge.  Especially young, hot girls who have more social options than they have time and energy and especially a potentially awkward thing like meeting up with a new guy (she's yet to discover fully how awesome I am).   

When I'm presented with this situation I respond with a similar 'Oh hey that's cool, because I was going to do xyz.  Let's just check in later and see how we feel at the time'.

At this stage I'll try and arrange something else, potentially with other girls or even just hanging out with a mate.

If I do arrange something else that is better, I'll do that and send her a very nice cancel text - 'Hey, a friend of mine is demanding I go out with her, I figured you wouldn't mind as you'd probably be tired.  If you're not you're welcome to join us if you want'.  If she complains I'd say something like 'Hey next time, if you can do a definite I'll be a definite' (with genuine politeness, naturally).

This will help train her to realise that unless she commits, I won't commit, and once you cancel on a girl 9 times out of 10 they start chasing even more ('wow, nobody cancels on me, he must have options').  It can be scary to say no to a girl like this.  Isn't there some ancient wisdom out there, something along the lines of 'if you want something you must let it go free'?

If I haven't arranged something better, when the time comes I'll text or call 'Enjoy the dinner?'.

If she replies 'Great, but really tired.  Raincheck?'

I'd reply 'Oh good, because I just bumped into an old friend and she's insisting on buying me a drink.  I don't feel so bad now about having to cancel.  Rest up and you'll have to tell me about it sometime'.

I'd then just do something else.  There are plenty of other productive things I can do if I find myself with spare time.

Is it stupid game playing?  Yes.  But that's the unfortunate reality in my view for gaming certain girls.

Sometimes it's not about questioning or demanding certain standards of behaviour from people who are too young, inconsiderate or lazy to follow, it's about doing what's fair and effective.

I always give people the benefit of the doubt and try and make plans properly - but I'm not going to give my power away.

If a girl gives me a wishy washy 'Yeah, maybe', that's exactly what I'll give her in return (and follow through with).

If she gives me a solid commitment that's great and that's what I'll give her in return.


Dale P.

Saturday, January 1

You know what's really cool? How women are so different and awesome in those different ways.

I see a smokin' chick and I'm like damn, she's just my type too. Then you meet another girl and that happens all over again.

Welcome 2011!